Hi Laura i am Caroline. A, 60 year old,CD from Antwerp, Belgium. I love Crossdressing and it all started at thirteen when i sneaked into my much older Sisters room…magical. What i encounter is that lesbian and gay men don’t be open minder to crossdressers. So, for years i feel lost and lonely. Being in a vanilla relationship is not making things easy for me. So, i am always so happy to find soulmates who understand my feminine inner 🫶🫶🥰
Hi Caroline,
Sorry it took me so devastatingly long to reply 🤔
I like to think I am open minded. I can imagine your predicament.
In a vanilla relationship …. it does not exclude CD happiness.
I, then 68 years young, came out to my wife only last January 1st (2025) after being her totally very male husband for 47 years… Of course she was shocked, but after some thinking (days) and lots of talking, came to the conclusion she loves me. And if Laura is an integral aspect of me as a person, then she still loves me, as a whole.
Since then I have been meeting with a group of like minded ladies, giving me the opportunity to be my feminine self in public and talk to them, exchange experiences, tips.
I found it boosted and still boosts my confidence and, supported by my lovely wife, I am now coming out in a larger circle. Going out en femme… still in a smaller but safe circle and intend to show myself more and more..
Try to find such a group of ladies (T&T groups, transgender groups), which I think a also there in Belgium. I myself have to drive close to an hour to get to my group meets, but it’s so worth it.
To be able to be my feminine self for up to 10 hours in public places is priceless..
Hi Caroline, also a CD from Antwerp :D, my name is PeekeWortel on every forum 😉 In a sexless relation but loving my wife. I don’t think she’s open to this, so everything is behind her back. Love to dress up when working from home when she’s at the office (like today ;)).
Trying to find some moments I can “account for” being away to film myself outside. Never felt confident enough yet to be with people around. It happens when people see me, which gives a nice kick. If wanting to chat, you can email at peekewortel-at-rocketmail.com
Hi Peekewortel
I also have been in a sexless relation with my wife for some time….Based on misunderstandings between the both of us…. when I came out as CD to my wife, it became clear we really had not been communicating with each other.. now my life including my sex life with her has changed drastically, simply because we started talking with each other instead of just talking to each other.
It took quite some, often night long, talks.. Once we dropped the ‘blaming’ our communication improved with LARGE steps and we took away any misunderstandings which blocked our relation.
Like you, we are in a long relationship, which has now been revived to back where we were a long time ago, now with the awareness and understanding what beached our relationship and what effort we need to take to prevent it happening again..
Start talking WITH each other and do not stop..
Keep asking what seems to bother your partner and give him/her the freedom and opportunity to express that… you do not need to react to it immediately, and if you need to think about that, inform your partner that too… AND do come back to it, after having thought about it.
Ask question(s) to assure you have correctly understood what they expressed, thus preventing new misunderstanding to grow…
And if you feel you may not be able to do it yourselves, then seek professional help to get a third unbiased opinion on what may be improved upon in your relation.
My wife did so, getting both one-on-on sessions with both partners as well as duo sessions together… It gave a good perspective and helped both me and my wife individually as well as improved our relation… and confirmed a lot of things, which we already concluded ourselves.. thus supporting the idea were were on the correct path…
💋 Laura
PS we intentionally did not talk to friends about our relation issues.
Main reason for that has been that friends always unconsciously take a side, thus painting their opinion, even if they do not intend to…
Hi Laura i am Caroline. A, 60 year old,CD from Antwerp, Belgium. I love Crossdressing and it all started at thirteen when i sneaked into my much older Sisters room…magical. What i encounter is that lesbian and gay men don’t be open minder to crossdressers. So, for years i feel lost and lonely. Being in a vanilla relationship is not making things easy for me. So, i am always so happy to find soulmates who understand my feminine inner 🫶🫶🥰
Hi Caroline,
Sorry it took me so devastatingly long to reply 🤔
I like to think I am open minded. I can imagine your predicament.
In a vanilla relationship …. it does not exclude CD happiness.
I, then 68 years young, came out to my wife only last January 1st (2025) after being her totally very male husband for 47 years… Of course she was shocked, but after some thinking (days) and lots of talking, came to the conclusion she loves me. And if Laura is an integral aspect of me as a person, then she still loves me, as a whole.
Since then I have been meeting with a group of like minded ladies, giving me the opportunity to be my feminine self in public and talk to them, exchange experiences, tips.
I found it boosted and still boosts my confidence and, supported by my lovely wife, I am now coming out in a larger circle. Going out en femme… still in a smaller but safe circle and intend to show myself more and more..
Try to find such a group of ladies (T&T groups, transgender groups), which I think a also there in Belgium. I myself have to drive close to an hour to get to my group meets, but it’s so worth it.
To be able to be my feminine self for up to 10 hours in public places is priceless..
Hi Caroline, also a CD from Antwerp :D, my name is PeekeWortel on every forum 😉 In a sexless relation but loving my wife. I don’t think she’s open to this, so everything is behind her back. Love to dress up when working from home when she’s at the office (like today ;)).
Trying to find some moments I can “account for” being away to film myself outside. Never felt confident enough yet to be with people around. It happens when people see me, which gives a nice kick. If wanting to chat, you can email at peekewortel-at-rocketmail.com
Hi Peekewortel
I also have been in a sexless relation with my wife for some time….Based on misunderstandings between the both of us…. when I came out as CD to my wife, it became clear we really had not been communicating with each other.. now my life including my sex life with her has changed drastically, simply because we started talking with each other instead of just talking to each other.
It took quite some, often night long, talks.. Once we dropped the ‘blaming’ our communication improved with LARGE steps and we took away any misunderstandings which blocked our relation.
Like you, we are in a long relationship, which has now been revived to back where we were a long time ago, now with the awareness and understanding what beached our relationship and what effort we need to take to prevent it happening again..
Start talking WITH each other and do not stop..
Keep asking what seems to bother your partner and give him/her the freedom and opportunity to express that… you do not need to react to it immediately, and if you need to think about that, inform your partner that too… AND do come back to it, after having thought about it.
Ask question(s) to assure you have correctly understood what they expressed, thus preventing new misunderstanding to grow…
And if you feel you may not be able to do it yourselves, then seek professional help to get a third unbiased opinion on what may be improved upon in your relation.
My wife did so, getting both one-on-on sessions with both partners as well as duo sessions together… It gave a good perspective and helped both me and my wife individually as well as improved our relation… and confirmed a lot of things, which we already concluded ourselves.. thus supporting the idea were were on the correct path…
💋 Laura
PS we intentionally did not talk to friends about our relation issues.
Main reason for that has been that friends always unconsciously take a side, thus painting their opinion, even if they do not intend to…