Position 69, important tips for maximum pleasure
Position 69 is a great sex position if you like oral sex, and can be an enrichment of your sex life. Provided it is performed well and you know what you are doing.
It is not an easy sex position. What is more convenient: your partner on top or you on top? How do you propose this to your partner? How do you satisfy your partner and make him/her come? Is that the intention? Is it possible to come simultaneously?
The below text is describing tips for a heterosexual position 69, but with a little imagination you may apply it to different gender interactions. I think Homosexual, Lesbian, Transgender people all have ways to apply the advises given to their specific physical ‘attributes’.
Position 69 sex tip # 1: how do you prepare yourself?
Some women are quite shy when it comes to oral sex. There are also women who can feel uncomfortable if their vagina is not completely fresh and shaved. We want to keep it that way, but that also applies to you as a man. Shave your pubic hair if possible. It is also important that you ensure that two areas are fresh and fruity: your foreskin and your anus.
‘Your anus?!’ you shout in shock. Yes, your anus. When you start with position 69, you could be confronted with your partners little ass, and she/he with yours. First of all, you want to set a good example. But in addition, she/he is exposed to your ass more than with a normal blowjob.
And of course your foreskin, if you are not circumcised. The skin of your glans and penis is different from the rest of your skin. This is relatively easy to keep clean, except for the foreskin where some things can get stuck. Not that this can do much harm, but you want it to be a pleasant experience for her – so that your partner considers position 69 worthy of repeating.
This can all be done quite quickly. A washcloth with some soap, and even toilet paper with some water will do the trick. A damp toilet cloth won’t hurt either. If you have all the time in the world, you can of course take a lovely long shower or bath – together.
Position 69 sex tip #2: how do you introduce it?
Position 69 is simply a form of oral sex. The best way is to be very casual about it. But if your partner has certain reservations, I have a few tips for you. First of all, make sure your love partner is excited. People seem to look at these kinds of topics differently when they are horny. Strange but true. So take the time to build up the tension through foreplay and teasing.
If your partner is reserved about oral sex, it probably has to do with a lack of self-confidence. So you want to put her at ease and not put her under pressure. Compliment her body and how much you like it when you satisfy, caress, touch, kiss, etc.
Position 69 sex tip #3: who best on top?
We are talking about a sex position that you want to keep for a while. So it is important that you make sure that you are both in a comfortable position. If she is on top, you lick the back of her vagina, the side that is closest to his/her anus. The advantage for her is that she has more control and can maneuver herself into a comfortable position more easily.
When you are on the bottom, make sure you have a pillow under your head, that makes it a lot more comfortable. It is the responsibility of the person on top that you do not cut off the blood supply of the person on top. So you may also have to lean on your elbows or knees, so it is useful to do strength training regularly.
At the same time, you should not be afraid to lean on her, that is part of the fun.
Position 69 sex tip #4: how do you satisfy and receive at the same time?
Although you are not looking each other in the eye, position 69 is more intimate than, for example, doggy style, where you do look her in the eye. The exciting thing is that you have to learn to both give and receive. That requires a certain surrender that greatly increases intimacy for you and your sex partner. With this mindset, position 69 becomes more intimate than, for example, missionary. Why? Because you have to trust each other more!
You have to trust that what you are doing is nice. That you are not hurting your sex partner. That you are able to enjoy yourself while also paying attention to the other person. It is also the case that you are with your nose close to a less colorful part of her, her anus. All these factors can make you more in your head, or that you surrender more to lovemaking itself. Trust and surrender are the key words.
69 sex tip #5: are you supposed to cum?
If she is on the bottom and you cum in her mouth, that could be something you both enjoy or not. Maybe she doesn’t like it when she has less control when you are on top, and that is why she likes it. These are all things that you as a man want to discuss. If 69 is already very challenging for her, don’t surprise her with a mouth full of cum when she is not expecting it.
Position 69 sex tip #6: how to come at the same time?
How do you know if you can’t see her enjoying herself? You do this by paying close attention to the movements her body makes. And of course the sounds she makes. Often it benefits the sex when you and your partner feel free and uninhibited to moan when you are enjoying yourself. Are the movements and sounds rhythmic and do they increase in intensity? Then you are probably doing well.
When she stops giving you oral sex for a moment, she may be close to coming. Then keep fingering and licking in the same rhythm. Coming at the same time often only works when you feel each other and have a strong sexual connection. It is not easy but it is a beautiful goal. It can only be achieved through a lot of practice. So you know what to do!
Good luck and please leave your own experiences and techniques regarding position 69 below.